“For as long as you can remember, you have been a pleaser,
depending on others to give you an identity.
You need not look at that only in a negative way.
You wanted to give your heart to others,
and you did so quickly and easily.
But now you are being asked to let go of all these self-made props
and trust that God is enough for you.
You must stop being a pleaser and reclaim your identity as a free self.”
Henri Nouwen, 1932-1996